Sunday, April 10, 2016

Happy National Sibling's Day!!

First of all, I HAVE to share the photos my mother-in-law took last night!! Like, OMFG! They're AH-MAZING!!!! Shoutout to Charming Artistry Photography!! 
Charming Artistry



Charming Artistry

Charming Artistry




Ok, now!! It's National Siblings Day!! So guess what y'all?? That's right, I'm talking about my siblings today!! And they're going to hate me for it!

First of all, I'm the WORST sibling ever. I'm flaky, unreliable, and even though we're all basically adults, I'm still bossy as fuck. And they all just deal because they know how I am, and that I'll never change!!

Do you know my favorite part of being a sibling??? An ever growing family! Not only do I have my own biological siblings, but I have their spouses, and my in laws as well, and their spouses!! Do you know what a blessing that is??? So I'm going to tell you a little about each of them, and my relationship with each of them. Again, they're all going to hate me lol!!

Let's start with my little sister Linnea!! *sorry kid*
Linnea and her husband Scott <3

Linnea became a gift in my life when I was 3 years old, and she's been a gift since. Now she's almost 24. Sadly, we've been through many turbulent years, but she's still the best sister I could have ever asked for. (Even though I asked them to take her back when they brought her home.) When we were little, we'd spend hours playing Barbies, pretend, and fighting. But we were each other's best friends. As we grew older, we grew apart. I lay the blame mainly on myself, and also on us being very different people. We even share very different memories on the same events. I remember the catalyst of our relationship being when we were both pregnant together with our first children. That's when I really looked at Linnea and realized we were equals. We were adults, and we were about to be mothers.  I was SO blessed to be present with her during the birth of her daughter, just four months after the birth of my own daughter. And sadly, I'd soon leave them to go to Arizona, where my husband would be stationed for the next 5 years. Last year, we finally moved back, and shortly before that, Linnea and I had reconciled after a few years of no contact. My heart felt so much happier, and our children became immediate friends. Even though we live 5 minutes away from one another, we rarely see one another because I work 6 days a week, and again, because I'm flaky and unreliable! I'm also a winter hermit. I'm trying terribly hard to change that!!

Next up is Paul! *sorry kid*
Paul and I at his high-school graduation <3

Now, when it comes to Paul, I tend to show a bit of favoritism, but that's really not the case, it's much more complex than that. Paul came into my life when I was 7 years old, and he became the most annoying stereo-type of a little brother anyone could imagine. *wink* Now he's 20 years old. After many years of caring for him, being the voice of reason and knowledge, and seeing him suffer from the instability of my mother, Drew and I made a life altering decision, that would eventually become one of the greatest blessings of our lives. Right before leaving on orders to Arizona, Drew and I decided to take custody of Paul, and bring him with us. We would spend the next 6 years raising him, and helping him navigate life. This sounded so much simpler in theory, but it was easily one of the hardest things I've ever done. I became a mother to my brother, and yet still maintained a sister-like relationship with him, because no matter how old we are, I'll always be his big sister. Luckily, I could always count on Drew to be the responsible adult who would throw the smack down between Paul and I. Through the years, Paul would go through some very tough shit, truly happy times, and then some even tougher shit. However tough life was though, he would come to feel confident in our unconditional love, graduate high school, and go into the Army. We couldn't be any prouder than we already are, but he constantly surprises me, and teaches me that my love has no bounds.

Lastly is Tommie *not sorry kid, you deserve it!*
A selfie I took last night, that Tommie photo bombed! <3

This kid dudes. Jesus! He's about the 17, and I just can't say enough about how proud I am of him, but even more than that, how much I love my in-laws for doing what they've done!  About 4 years ago, Drew, Paul, the kids, and myself came home to NY for a summer vacation. While home, Tommie came to my in-laws to spend the weeks with us. This was typical as all of mine and Drew's siblings are the same ages. When we left to go back to Arizona, Tommie didn't leave. And months passed, and he remained. So my mother-in-law decided to keep him! After an ugly court battle, and my own mother disowning me for supporting my in-laws, my in-laws won. And here we are 4 years later, and this kid is exemplary! He's about to end his junior year of high-school, and I couldn't be any more amazed at the wonderful human he is.

On top of all my own wonderful siblings, I have half siblings, their spouses, my siblings-in-law, and their spouses! With Linnea comes Scott, a wondeful man who's made my sister's life brighter and happier, someone I am so thankful my sister found. He's a wondeful human, man, husband, and father! My in-laws are Casey, and Amber, Gabe, and with him Anna, Kennedy, and with her Bri, And there's Kale, who thank Jesus doesn't have a spouse seeing as he's a senior in highschool (although, that didn't stop Drew and I lol.)

So many blessings!! Happy National Siblings Day!!!